One of the things that my son wanted for his birthday was to participate in the very first Marvel themed run in the Philippines. Now how could any parent–especially this parent–say no to that request!
Held at the Block 16, SM Mall of Asia Event Grounds, we arrived in time for a number of ColorRun Manila pre-run activities such as the “Stan Lee” interview and the Asgardian stretching exercises led by The Amazing Spider-Man and Loki: The God of Mischief.
Not long after the 10K runners sped off, our Captain America themed group positioned ourselves near the starting gate and the next thing we knew, confetti flew through the air to signal the start of our 5k race.
After seeing commercials of it on the Nickelodeon channel, my son said to his mom, “Mama, I want to get three tickets. One for me. One for Mama. One for Dada.”
Next thing we knew, we were at McKinley West, Taguig City, Philippines for the Nickelodeon Slime Cup Run 2017! As 4K double loop run participants, we were literally among the first to break out of the starting group and make our way to through several obstacles in the course.
By the time it was all said and done[i], my son entered the confines of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle (TMNT) inspired slime machine where he got to experience what Peter Venkman felt when Slimer slimed him for the very first time!
A couple of days ago, I was asked by a good friend if there were exercises that could “motivate people to do the things that they need to do.”
Sadly, I replied, “There isn’t any.”
When it comes to matters involving motivation, I believe that the limitation of every psychologist extends to their patient’s intrinsic motivation. Simply put, a psychologist can help a patient who is self-motivated to some degree but can do nothing for someone devoid of any.
In my book entitled, “This Side Up: Short reads to being an effective parent” (scheduled to be released in early 2014), I share several situations wherein the attempts of well-meaning parents who influence their children towards athletics or some form of self-improvement are often met with resistance or complete disinterest.
Does this mean then that parents shouldn’t simply let their children be? Of course not! Parents just need to temper their own personal expectations and instead focus on simply exposing their child to the sport or desired activity. Should the child gain some measure of enjoyment from this process, their feelings towards the activity may change to the point of self-motivation or what I refer to as ownership.
That said, you may no longer need to drag little Billy to his basketball camp in the morning as his ownership over the activity may spur him to wake you up first.
In Adolescents and Adults
In the case of older children and adults, true ownership or commitment towards a given activity (e.g., exercise, weight loss, etc.) is often difficult as rationalizing why we can’t do something is so much easier than why we have to. Remember, true commitment is a daily, even hourly, process. I won’t lie to you…it is difficult.
So, when it comes to the subject of exercise or work/study goals, surround yourself with like-minded people. If someone says you can’t do something, believing him or her is the worst thing that you can do! Prove them wrong by starting today!
I believe in you.
If you would like to set an appointment, you can reach Dr. Villasor at the Makati Medical Center trunk line number: 888-8999 (Local 2357) or through their direct line: 844-2941.