Posts Tagged ‘Depression’

Long distance relationships: Are they workable?

08/02/2013 1 comment

In all honesty, the success of any long distance relationship boils down to four factors: Love, Trust, Resolve and a concrete Plan.  I believe that the absence of any of these factors could contribute heavily to the end of the relationship as well as some feelings of resentment, loss of self-worth, anxiety, and even depression on the part of one or both partners.

Unique relationships such as this usually call for some measure of sacrifice (e.g., having to leave the security of family and friends, changing jobs or lifestyle, move to a different country or state), as the ultimate goal should be to bring both lovers together for an indefinite period of time.  Oftentimes, one partner is called upon to make a greater sacrifice that he or she may not be ready to commit to because of its enormity and that it is filled with unparalleled uncertainty.  That said, couples may find themselves setting aside these tough decision and simply be contented with “what they have now.”

There in lies the problem as no definite timetable or concrete plan leaves you only in the moment.  So, what’s next?  Where do you go from here? Why are you in this relationship in the first place?

Questions that will eventually have to be answered…or maybe in your heart you’ve known the answer all along but just haven’t mustered the courage to embrace it.

If you are having trouble reaching a decision regarding your long distance relationship or would just like to have some personal clarity on the matter, here are five questions that you can reflect on:

  1. Are you ‘in love’ or ‘in love with the idea of being in love?’
  2. If your have arguments (or course you do), how are they normally resolved? Was it truly resolved or did you just set it aside?
  3. Was there ever a time that you didn’t have your ‘best foot forward?’ How did that turn out?
  4. Would you consider yourself the type of person who changes people for the better?
  5. How do you deal with regret?

Good luck guys!  Do this and it is my sincerest hope that it will be workable.

Contact information:

If you would like to set an appointment, you can reach Dr. Villasor at the Makati Medical Center trunk line number: 888-8999 (Local 2357) or through their direct line: 844-2941.


The Bamboo has a different purpose than the Fern

09/15/2010 Leave a comment

A picture of depression

The Bamboo Story

One day I decided to quit my job, relationship, spirituality, and my life.

But I decided to have one last conversation with God.

The Lord asked me, “Give me one good reason not to quit?’

And He continued, “Look all around, do you see the  fern and the bamboo?”

“Yes,” I replied.

‘When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of  them.

I gave them light.

I gave them water.

And the fern sprouted quickly from the earth.  It’s brilliant green covering the soil.

Lace Fern (Microlepia Strigosa)

Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed.

But I did not quit on the bamboo.

The following year, the fern grew more vibrant and plentiful and again, nothing came from the bamboo seed.

But I did not quit on the bamboo.

In the year after, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.

But I would not quit.

By the fourth year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.

But I still wouldn’t quit.

Then in the fifth year, a tiny sprout emerged from the earth and compared to the fern it seemed small and insignificant.

But half a year later, the bamboo rose to over a hundred feet.

It had spent the five years growing it’s roots.  Roots that made it strong and gave what it needed to survive.”

Remember my child, “I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.”

Strong Bamboo

The Lord then asked me. “Did you know, my child, that during your time of struggle, you have actually been growing your own roots.”

“I would not quit on the bamboo and I will never quit on you.”

“Don’t compare yourself to others as the bamboo has an entirely different purpose than the fern.”

“Be mindful that your  time will come.”

God added, “You will rise high”

I responded, “How high will I go?”

“How high will the bamboo rise?” The Lord asked in return.

“As high as it can?” I questioned.

“Yes.” He said, “Give me glory by rising as high as you can.”

I left the forest with this story and I hope that these words can help you realize that God will never giver up on you.

For the Christian Prayer is not an option but an opportunity.

Remember, “Don’t tell the Lord how big  the problem is, tell the problem how Great the Lord is!

Now…what will you do with this message?