I will periodically update this post as more “key” words come to my attention.
In a therapeutic setting, I have heard the following words–not often, but often enough–uttered by patients:
I will try…
I can’t do…
It’s so hard… or It’s so difficult…
Now there is nothing fundamentally wrong with the words “try,” “can’t,” “hard,” or “difficult” but if one hopes to facilitate a certain degree of change in their lives, I feel that how they view or present their situation is equally important. Proverbial change starts from within–a journey that instantaneously begins with the redefinition of one’s lexicon.
Master Yoda was right
During Luke Skywalker failed attempt to lift his X-Wing from the murky swamps of Dagobah, Yoda told a beleaguered Luke, “Do…or do not. There is no try.”
Whenever someone says that they will “try,” I find the odds of them fulfilling the given task–whatever it may be–dropping dramatically. “Try” has become to go-to word to bridge a difficult conversation into a far more comfortable. The easiness of this transition has to stop and the one way to do is would be to remove the word entirely from your lexicon.
The same can be said for the words “can’t,” “hard,” and “difficult.” How would you know that you “can’t” do a specific task or that it is “hard” or “difficult” if you haven’t done it consistently yet?
We define consistently as engaging in the said activity regularly over a period of 60 days.
Make that change
If you want to make some changes in your own life but need some assistance, you can schedule an appointment with me.
I’d be more than happy to help.